Shy or outgoing?

Recent email went round my friends and this was a question asked of them. They were divided in their response (as they were to the question rebel or rule follower). I know why too. It depends on the situation:

1. On the stage. Outgoing
2. before/after church sevice. SHY
3. in small groups. Outgoing
4. Sunday school. outgoing
5. Family (immediate). Outgoing
6. In-laws (immediate) Outgoing
7. In laws, extended. Shy
8. Family, extended. Shy
9. Parties. Shy
10. 1 to 1. Outgoing
11. in the staff room at work usually shy
12. restaurant. Small number - outgoing. Large number - shy
13. Weddings. SHY

Almost 50/50 split. No wonder you guys are confused. So am I